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Dating After 60: Real World Dating Advice for Older Women
Bette Davis once said that getting old is not for sissies. Well, many women would argue that the same comment applies to dating after 60. Not only are there statistically fewer men, but the dynamic of human engagement, and style of personal connection, has changed dramatically since we were dating in our 20s. Also, a lifetime of love and loss has made many women distrustful and unwilling to get back into the dating game.
Dating coaches take a more positive stance on dating after 60. They explain that a change in mindset is essential for women over 60 who want to find romance. In myrecent interview with dating coach, David Wygant, he suggested that men are often the ones who lack confidence and suffer from fear of rejection. He says that older women have the power to make a connection that turns into a dating opportunity.
For example, three simple ideas for creating dating opportunities include smiling genuinely, approaching men first and learning the art of flirting. His assessment requires a fundamental shift in thinking women must not be afraid to make the first move!
So whats a midlife woman who was raised in a world where men were supposed to make the first move do? Here are a few ideas to help you get the hang of dating after 60.
Social media has opened wonderful doors of connection, so, dont be afraid to look up a single high school friend and even consider attending your next reunion or class event. Use LinkedIn to casually say hi to interesting men youve met at events. You will find out soon enough if they are married or committed, so, for now, just be friendly and see what happens.
Let single girlfriends know that you are actively looking for a relationship maybe they know someone who is perfect for you!
Another place to meet interesting men is the good old standby, the coffee shop. Many men come in every day to get their cup of chai or latte. Pay attention and you may just find a new friend. Start a casual conversation with the man standing in line and smile! When you sit down, dont immediately pull out your mobile phone or book.
Look around and make eye contact. If you see someone interesting, make a move. It doesnt matter what the move is. Sometimes just asking whether the chocolate muffins are any good is enough to start a great conversation. Just remember to be genuine. Youre not looking for the love of your life (although it would be nice to find him). At this point, youre just looking to make a friendly connection.
When you are out with a dog or young child, there is a natural and comfortable energy about you. This weekend, grab your dog and visit your local park. If you dont have a dog, perhaps you can borrow one from a friend. If you have a grandchild, take them for a walk or buy them ice-cream at a local cafe. You will be smiling and thats a good start!
The most important dating guideline is to simply do things you love. If you love museums, look for special events that will draw a crowd. If you have a passion for books, go and browse the magazines and chat with the man next to you. He may say my wife and I and thats totally fine. There should be no expectations when meeting new people. If you love sports, buy a ticket to an event that you love. Who knows who will be sitting next to you?
Many cities have an organization calledMeetups. You can join groups for everything you can possibly imagine including hiking, art, photography, travel or dining out. They also have events for men and women our age and can be a great opportunity to meet new people, whether you are looking for love or not.
Many men love to work out, so, a great place to meet them is at the gym. Meeting people at the gym has a few build in advantages. First, any single man that you do meet at the gym is more interested than the average person in staying in shape. Second, even if you dont meet anyone, working out is important for every aspect of your health after 60 mental, physical, and emotional. Getting in shape will improve your confidence and improve every aspect of dating after 60.
Online dating fills a gap for women who are more uncomfortable meeting new people in person. There are lots of choices, like , where you can freely browse hundreds of profiles. Other paid sites, like m, and Chemistry.com, ask you to take a personality test before they look for matches for you.
There are also faith-based sites like ChristianCafe.com and JDate.com where members can write and respond to anyone. There really are so many ways to meet men even after 60 it simply takes a shift in mindset.
Do you agree that women should make the first move when meeting a man for the first time? Do you think we have forgotten the Art of Flirting? Please add your thoughts in the comments section below.
Watch my interview with dating couch, David Wygant I promise that some of his senior dating advice will shock and surprise you!
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if I became single I would never remarry it would be or ,,, ok though for week-ends and traveling after being married for nearly 40 years. I would never again share, cook, clean, etc., for another man
I had opertunity to date agent. But i dont feel free i worry now aboute infections and more. Its in my head i know it. But date feels weird at65 i be in november for me
I still dress stylist and act young becouse i have yo g brain
I had good looking boyfriends now i dont wan old men next to me
i dont think so. i like my life just the way it is.
And of course there are many many much younger men who want us as well.
I am having a wonderful time dating men in their 60s who all appreciate what we have to offer. Dont give up.
No thank you-I love being by myself and intend to stay this way. Dating is not anything I want to do again 🙂
First of all u have to find out where all the men are hiding! Lol
I can only say that dating over 60 is great if you have a special person in your life. x
Well ladies .. go out side of your age bracket. I have by 25yrs .. and I dont regret one bit. 12yrs now. And he doesnt regret it either .. 🙂
No, the entire concept that I have to change myself to please some members of the opposite sex at my age makes me puke. I thought we got through these issues when we were, oh, in our twenties. I am feminine: I will not change or alter or celebrate my perceived femininity to please someone else or change my personality tp gain approval or earn a sexual image award frpm a dating coach. Honestly.
What about some advice for lesbian women over 60.
Out where I live the men my age generally look like Rip Van Winkle. Not very motivating.
I have a friend who is back on the dating scene and it is so fun to hear her stories!
Sounds like there are some smart confident women out there that dont need gimmicks and prefer just being themselves.
The first three I can see, but not flirtingno.
Oh gag me. Maybe in this coaches world this is true, but for the rest of us it is BS!
The men i come into contact with have no idea how to flirt !
Good grief! No thank you. *runs and hides* 🙂 Please tell me that women at around our age are much wiser than that.
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