Its high time we put the most enduring myths about human behavior to bed, and see the mindand the worldas it is.

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Its high time we put the most enduring myths about human behavior to bed, and see the mindand the worldas it is.

Should the Dark Triad Become the Dark Tetrad?

Artificial Intelligence (AI) and Mental Health Care

Neurotic and Melancholic Depression: A Key Distinction

Why Bisexual People Face Unique Dating Challenges

How Much of Dog Behavior Is Linked to Breed Genetics?

Teens Who Dont Date: Socially Behind or Socially Skilled?

Each year, releases data on American singles (not just those on m), which the media gobbles up immediately. Withnearly half of the American population over age 18identifying as single/dating,marriagetrends make for great headlines. But the2015 Singles in America studycame with particularly heavy fanfare from womens magazines. I still remember when this piece of research hit my desk, and I leaned forward a little bit in my chair to read its seemingly feminist ink.

After looking into the mating preferences of more than 5,000 men and women by way of survey, researcher and biological anthropologist Helen Fisher, Ph.D., writes that we are seeing a Clooney Effect in this country a nod to the recent marriage of Americas favorite bachelor, actor George Clooney, to human rights lawyer Amal Alamuddin. According to Fishers numbers, men desire smart, strong, successful women; 87 percent of men said they would date a woman who was more intellectual than they were, who was better educated, and who made considerably more money than they did, while 86 percent said they were in search of a woman who was confident and self-assured.

Plenty of articlesaround the web followed, sayingthis was a win for women(and men, too), but there I was in early 2015, reading those headlines with an eyebrow raised and an air of skepticism.

I am lucky to be surrounded by some brilliant women verifiable catches. Gorgeous women my guy friends always ask me about. I have also watched these same smart, independent women struggle in bad relationships or fly solo for extended periods of time, despite their best efforts to land a good guy. So, what did this mean? If 87 percent of men were actively looking to couple with them, why were they still single?

Plus, the ladies of myfriendcircle who were actually in healthy relationships did not exactly fit the description laid out by Fisher. Although they were super smart and attractive in their own right, the perpetually matched in my sphere did not fit a clear-cut profile, and I would not automatically group them into the same category as verycareer-oriented, put-together Amal. Clearly, they had some secret sauce ofattraction, but what? I wasnt sure.

I began floating casual questions by the guys in my life to try to gain a better understanding: So, like, whats your type? (I was breezy about it, I swear.) As one of my male friends put it, the general consensus was: The smarter and more successful, the better! There are no limits. Id then hear about a doctor, nearing 30, who was about to give up on dating, because she didnt feel like men valued her brains.

So now I was confused by the research, the real-life relationships around me, and the response from men gaps, gaps, gaps between all these pieces that seemingly did not fit together.

I finally did what any skeptical journalist would do: I kept my eyes open for more research. In late 2015,an intriguing new studyemerged in thePersonalityand Social Psychology Bulletin,which had further clues into all the holes I was seeing firsthand in this new theory of dating. The study proposes this: Men like more intelligent womenin theory when they imagine them as romantic partners, or when they have psychological distance from them. However, when they actually have tointeractwith such a woman, something interesting happens.

In the study of 105 men, researchers laid out several scenarios. In the first, they told men that a woman down the hall, whom they never saw, either outperformed or underperformed them on anintelligencetest. Then they were told to imagine this woman as a romantic partner. Unsurprisingly, the guys more frequently desired the woman who outperformed them (feminists).

However, in the second round, men were given an intelligence test and then told that they were about tomeeta woman who had bested them on the same exam. Ah, yes. The mythic smart, successful, beautiful woman every guy supposedly wanted.

In the study, the men didnt go after this awesome woman, according to lead researcher Lora Park, a professor in psychology at University at Buffalo. When the woman was psychologically near a real-life face-to-face interaction men moved their chair further away from the woman, as an indicator of less interest in her, and reported less romantic attraction toward the woman when she outperformed versus underperformed him on a test, she tells me.

The way Park explains it, men onlythinkthey know what they want or they know what they want in theory, not what theyd choose when put to the test IRL. Men seem to be influenced less by their ideal partner preferences and more by their emotions or feelings at the moment, she says. Specifically, when men were outperformed by a woman in a domain that they cared about intelligence they felt threatened, assessed by diminished self-ratings of masculinity, which then led them to act in a way counter to what their expressed ideal preferences were. In other words, these guys felt way inferior in the smarter womans presence, and so they went rogue; they ditched their self-described dream gal for someone who didnt best their intelligence.

Wow, I thought.Eureka!This study actually helped explain Fishers Singles in America numbers from a psychological perspective and then explained what Id been seeing anecdotally. I was a contributing writer for Yahoo Health at the time, and I immediately pitched an idea to my editor which she cleared me to write. I began researching a story with this question at the center: Are men intimidated by a woman who is the full package?

I talked to many men. And when all was said and done, I was forced to acknowledge that I was onto something bigger a paradigm shift that I couldnt explain in one simple article. My research complicated thewisdomwe were being fed about what men are looking for in a partner, who they date, and why they date them. Saying that men like smart women encompassed about 1 percent of the nuanced reality.

As a writer, Im constantly chewing on questions. People ask me about my job, and I usually say, When I dont have answers, I see if someone will employ me to find them. Well, this question became the center of my work life. (And, eventually, my real life as a dater.) Modern-day dating dynamics, in a world where women can do and be anything, are so layered and fascinating youre likely not even aware of some of the phenomena in play. I began finding connections in every new data set I encountered and on every date I ventured out on.

When I began my research, almost all the guys I interviewed or chatted up insisted that when it came to the women they wanted, the more, the better. They also said that while they were not personally intimidated by smart, successful, attractive women, they felt most other men were. But as I got guys talking really talking they started to say some more revelatory things.

I talked to my good friend Jack, a witty and self-aware 27-year-old consultant. When I asked him what he was looking for in a lifelong partner, he said that, of course, he wanted a smart, independent, successful, beautiful woman (yada yada). However, later in our conversation, he also said that if he didnt feel like he could win over a girl who fit the bill, hed start looking for reasons to discount her. And he told me, You can pretty easily convince yourself that you never really wanted her to begin with.

I went on a date with a handsome real estate broker a few years my senior, someone with the fearless facade of a man hardened to rejection and immune to the effects of deflectedattention. He acted entirely secure in himself  but off the cuff, when I casually brought up the question of whether he would be intimidated to date the quintessential accomplished woman, he was quite candid. I want her to be smart and successful, he said. But not as smart and successful as I am.

One of my girlfriends (a lovely, brilliant-yet-soft-spoken entrepreneur) once went on a first date with a guy who runs in our social sphere. He made her a sushi dinner, in fact, and they had five hours of great conversation before calling it a night. Interestingly, though, he seemed to push her away very quickly afterward right into friend territory. He wasnt going to date her, yet hed drop everything to meet her for a last-minute happy hour after work or hand over his football tickets to her friends as a show of respect.

When I asked him to explain his reluctance to pursue her (one night over 1:00 a.m. beers, where I clearly do fine research), he gave me some of his reasons. Shes as close to perfect as Ive ever found, he said. But I think Id drive her crazy. I think shed tire of my energy.

Relationship expert Susan Walsh, founder of the popular dating site Hooking Up Smart, once told me, When a man tries to convince you not to date him, listen.

Still, if men know a great thing when they find it, why dont they pull the trigger?

Youve probably been discussing this dating gray area with your friends for eons, but allow me to finally define and label it for you:

The Love Gap, n. the reason men dont always pursue the women they claim to want; frequently, women like you.

The Love Gap is a thoroughly modern phenomenon that now exists between the sexes which is why were focusing on heterosexual pairings here. The dynamics are unique to 21st-century men and women with evolved desires for a relationship, who also have to get around generations and generations of the ingrained male provider/female nurturer framework.

What lies in the Love Gap? Oh, I dont know … Lets start with a few things. Psychological distance. Timelines. Past heartbreaks. Ancientgenderroles. Socialized differences in the sexes view of love, emotions, and vulnerability. A lack of genuine relationship-nurturing qualities today. Games, because everybody wants the upper hand. How the sexes respond to their partners reflected glory.

I could extrapolate for days and I will, because we need to identify the Love Gap in our daily lives, so that we can understand and navigate it. If we want to finally build fulfilling relationships with compatible partners, we need to grasp why we believe what we believe and parse out why those beliefs are not always accurate. This entire modern landscape starts with you in all your awesomeness.

I want to introduce you to the End Goal woman, a.k.a. you EG for short.

End goal, n. (1) a smart, successful, full-package woman whom men admire, date, and deem aspirational; she contains the sort of substance and carries the type of connection they want to lock down someday; (2) a modern woman who knows what she wants in love and in life; she has an ultimate objective in mind for her future, and she is unwilling to settle in getting there.

Before this book was even a sparkle in my eye, I was consistently baffled by the dating stories Id hear from career women. Women who had their lives together for the most part. Its not like they didnt ever make questionable decisions; we all spend unreasonable amounts of cash on six new lipsticks at Sephora or forget to call our mom sometimes. But these women had substance,charm, andgoalsthat they were actively reaching for. In fact, many of these girls were my favorite people in the whole world! Women who always filled my life with fun and positive energy.

And yet, I was still fielding sob-filled phone calls about men who were breaking their hearts. I listened to a lot of their stories and then, to help me understand, I started talking to a lot of guys. Eventually, I mapped out an explanation, a conclusion Id felt for the entirety of my adult life, but never identified before in black and white: Men dont always date the women they claim to want at any given time in their lives. And its not because theyre just not that into you.

Excerpted from the book THE LOVE GAP: A Radical Way to Win in Life and Love by Jenna Birch. Copyright © 2018 by Jenna Birch. Reprinted with permission of Grand Central Life & Style. All rights reserved.

U.S. Census Bureau, Facts for Features: Unmarried and Single Americans Week: Sept. 1824, 2016, news release, August 26, 2016,

Match.com, Singles in America: Match Releases Its Fifth Annual Comprehensive Study on the Single Population, news release, Feb. 4, 2016,

Zahra Barnes, Why The Clooney Effect Is Amazing for Your Love Life, Glamour, Jan. 13, 2016, Tanya Basu, The Clooney Effect, Atlantic, Feb. 26,  2015,

Lora E. Park, Ariana F. Young, and Paul W. Eastwick, (Psychological) Distance Makes the Heart Grow Fonder: Effects of Psychological Distance and Relative Intelligence on Mens Attraction to Women, Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin 41, no. 11 (Nov. 1, 2015): 145973,

In other words, these guys felt way inferior in the smarter womans presence, and so they went rogue; they ditched their self-described dream gal for someone who didnt best their intelligence.

How do you know the dudes dream gal was someone who didnt best their intelligence all along?

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Maybe when questioned about dating/marrying someone highly intelligent and driven, some men reply with yes absolutely because they think thats what theyre SUPPOSED to say? Theyd probably look like an insecure jerk if they answered otherwise.

…more virtue signalling fools lefty researchers….again.

In the end, hot looking, early 20s is the goal for every guy out there.

Amazing how feminism has made men so weak they darent tell the truth about themselves.

Why is that all you want? Why are you so convinced that every man is exactly like you – are you a fascist? Sorry for you. Why do you think that the age of a woman and what she looks like are the only things she has to offer you? Are your age and looks all you have to offer? Thats a shame, man.

Intelligence is drawn to intelligence and – well, – not everyone is

The lefts only humour is making fun of conservatives.

I might easily have said that in a recent research test, every single woman – even professed feminists – wanted the men with muscles and masculine jawlines.

So cutting to the crap, looks count vastly – and for both sexes.

The comment is a general observation. (And quite accurate!)

Dont personalize everything, bro. That makes a man seem reactive and like – well, – anyone can pull his strings. You know?

Strange that you automatically assumed I meant that looks DONT matter – absolutely nowhere in my post did I write or imply that. But if you have decided the ONLY two criteria which matter TO EVERY MAN (big fat generalization, made by you) are age and beauty, then I think youre the one who should cut your own crap. Any person who needs to be with someone dumber than they are, no matter how good of a connection they feel with that person – looks and all – has deep-seated insecurities they should probably check out. Its a different story if you end up naturally with someone less intelligent, the issue is with the disregard or, worse, disdain for someone just as or more intelligent.

The lefts only humor is making fun of conservatives…I dont remember making fun of you, or you knowing me well enough at all to make such an estimation, but its impressive that you think you know every single person on the left enough to generalize so broadly. I find most things funny – making fun of people? Not one of those things. My humor is mostly sexual inuendo humor, toilet humor, slapstick/Monty Python, cheesy puns, Dave Chappelle/Patton Oswalt/Sara Silverman…that sort. Maybe next time, skip the generalizations geared at provoking the shittiest response from others? Just a thought.

Libertard gets triggered by text on a random website

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You leftards create comedy with your own retarded comments on the internet, and are too stupid to realize it. LOL

Feminism is cancer. Youre an ugly blue haired feminist, who repeatedly tells itself that its so intelligent and that men are intimidated by this, as a means of coping with being sexually rejected. Hence, thats why you became a feminist in the first place. Yeah, I know, too bad men are busy fucking all the attractive women and not blue haired ugly leftists like you. And what does KD stand for? Kissing dick?

And nobody needs to know you well enough to see how retarded you are… your comments on here are what any typical leftard sperg would write. So please, reply to this with a giant text wall, and make us laugh. Ha ha ha. Do it fgt.

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Submitted by Jenna on August 1, 2019 – 2:27pm

Women do not as a group like muscles and musculine jaw lines, especially in countries other than the United States , where everything is more personal taste and not socialized to neaseum.

It would depend on the date. If she sits there telling me she is a Feminist, hate Donald Trump and thinks men are evil then I am not likely to want to date her. However, if she talks about science, philosophy and how she traveled through Russia, Iran, Belarus, or China by camel looking for fluorite so she can make Uranium hexafluoride for the homemade nuclear reactor she is building I would be all over her. It is also a plus if she can catch mice and cook them.

Just a short message, have to put kids to sleep… skimmed through your article, but did not see anything new – did not see anything on the fact that women tend to select among men with higher status (at least in some way – physical, economical etc) then themselves – thus among highly capable there are fewer men to select from – scientific support seems to be farily huge on this issue. Or phrased in another way (at the other end of the spectrum) in a certain group of men any of them would take any women as their partner, but on the other hand (to a large extent the same group) no women would ever consider a certain group of men as a potential partner. Those are the men you find at the bottom of the distributions, what women want are those above themselves. Baumeisters most underappreciated fact about men will give you a lot of info, e.g. in the book is there anything good about men. Good luck, now have to put the kids to bed!

Every feminist should read that book of Baumeisters.

And then western government education departments. Would shut down all gender studies groups in a heartbeat

What you say is False. It was not women who excluded average men from mating. It was high-status alpha males that kept the other men as slaves and worked them to death. More than half of the men in the Roman Empire were not even allowed to marry legally. And any woman who married them and had kids with them was punished under law and her kids were not recognized legally as humans. It was men who did this to other men.

Do some men lie about what they want? Sure. Just not nearly as often as women do.

Ive been married for 11 years now, but was once the stereotypical nice guy who couldnt get dates. I heard countless single women claim All I want is a decent man. And they probably thought that was true. They actually wanted a decent man who was ALSO rich, handsome, successful, well built, etc. Their definition of decent did not include men like me.

And thats okay. No woman had an obligation to date me if she didnt want to. Women have a right to high standards. But they should admit having high standards, instead of pretending they just want an ordinary decent man.

I find that as an intelligent, responsible, successful, healthy, nice man Im not the one driving this phenomenon. Women are not interested in me if they are similarly qualified, they want someone much more successful than themselves… not to mention much taller, and not bald. So it would seem men and women are both dishonest or confused about what they want.

Is cowardice. A man will take a smart girl out, have a great time, and have wonderful, deep conversations with her. He might really fall for her. But he dares not take her out or to a party. If his buddies get wind of it, they will revoke his man card. That trumps everything.

That she is right. Society may frown on trophy wives but that is what earns men respect from one another.

And this is born by studies showing men with hotter wives are happier.

No such work has ever been cited showing men happier with more intelligent wives.

A lot of people seem to be embarrassed by their real preferences so they lie to both others and themselves. Its currently fashionable for men to claim they like natural women. When theyre asked who they find attractive though, they start posting pictures of women with collagen injected lips, false breasts, lots of make-up, etc. When somebody male points out these women arent natural, theyll argue they are and ask him who he finds attractive then. When a female points out these women arent natural, they issue their standard Youre just jealous! line. Instead they could just be honest and admit they like fake breasts etc, but they dont because theyre embarrassed by their own preferences. So they lie and claim these women are all natural. Women do the same thing when they say they just want a nice man. Then they date men who dont in anyway hide the fact they arent nice, and when the relationship is over they say he changed… he was so nice in the beginning. Theyre embarrassed to admit they dont care whether hes nice or not, and begun dating him knowing exactly what sort of person he was.

Yes. Quite remarkable how the progressive lefts PC brainwashing has gotten so deep in to the culture now.

Look at the many, many studies without so much acclaim, showing women want strong muscular men with solid jawlines, decent jobs and even slightly misogynist to boot! (Researchers in Scandinavia showed through clever questions that feminists actually prefer more traditional, strong misogynist men)

Social engineering and books/articles like this are just trying to change the unchangeable

Great article! I guess Im one of those smart driven women who is still single. I could have settled but I chose not to based on my values. Im just not willing to settle for someone I dont believe shares my values. But also, it takes an extended period of time just to find someone that you can relate to on a deeply level. At least that is the case for me anyway.

With regards to the gap between what men say they want and what they actually go for…well nothing has really changed. Men tend to go after women they are attracted to and women go after men who they feel can take care of them both physically and financially. Thats just the way it is. I think as you get older you tend to settle a little on looks or money and other superficial stuff because you find out through trial and error that those things mean very little when it comes to a long term happy relationship. This could be where you may find that men will tend to choose smarter and more financially centered women over other more attractive women based on how much stability she can bring to the household.

I read in a book somewhere that you can argue with our primal instincts or you can just adjust and be happy with who you are and what you have to offer someone. I think that is the best advice when it comes to dating.

wow, I was just about to write a slight rogue response to all of this, it might be just me but every article of this nature I read almost always portrays men as the only bad ones.

Then I read your response. And I must say, you nailed it. Everyone pretends they want someone who is smart, successful and yada yada. In reality we humans can often not escape our nature. I totally agree on the way you phrased it.

In reality men care more about looks and women do care about mens status. Even if we all on an intellectual level see things different.

ps: yes I know its almost a year since then ^^

Its the indignant moralising by a feminised culture that is the issue.

Somehow in the modern western calculus going for someone purely on looks is inferior for going for money.

Of course we all know why this is: feminism, and womens disdain for men objectifying them.

You seem to be heavily indoctrinated in a current trend where all the faults of the world are directly correlated to